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Balancing Act: The Newsletter (No. 162, February 2013 )

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  • Don't fret. Take action or forget the issue. Worrying, stressing, and guilt simply burn up energy in a totally non-productive manner.

  • When you're at the beach and it rains, you tend to look to the horizon to see if clear skies are in the offing. When you feel you're in a storm, look to the horizon.

  • If you are doing a kindness with the expectation of thanks or gratitude, stop, because you're only doing it for yourself.

  • Writing a check is easy. Attending an event or offering to volunteer your help is real commitment.

  • If you're going to make a big splash, others might get wet. They have the option to leave the pool.

  • If you are reading this, you are probably in the top 5% of the population, world-wide. You have talent and resources. If you ignore them or forsake them, you will be in mental poverty.

  • The secret of abundance is to pursue it so that you can help others, not merely stuff your cheeks like a chipmunk.

  • People write me to ask what a word I've used means, or a reference pertains to. I have two words for you: Goo-Gle. If you aren't curious enough to investigate, why should I be your secretary?

  • I don't believe in cutting costs as a fundamental method to improve profits, but if you do it NEVER allow the client or customer to notice. When I see amenities reduced in top hotels, I don't go back.

  • Outside of the US, people are a lot more relaxed in organizations and there are far fewer ridiculous rules. On a million dollar launch coming back from dinner on an island to the Four Seasons in Bora Bora, the two crewmen asked if I'd like to drive the boat. That sure ain't going to happen in Hilton Head or Palm Beach.

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We were escorted to one of the largest suites at the Ritz-Carlton in St. Thomas. The general manager had greeted us and everyone was incredibly helpful and friendly. They all asked, "Is there anything at all we can do for you?"

After looking around our digs for a minute or two, I realized that if we were farther out toward the end, we'd have a much better view. I said to the concierge, "Remember your offer….?" Fifteen minutes later we were re-deposited at the end of the building facing the sea with a humungous balcony. (A few doors away was the presidential suite where President Obama recently stayed.)

You never know until you ask. You can get lower prices, larger spaces, more service, and unknown amenities if you simply inquire. The worst that can happen is you're told that it can't happen.

I'm not a negotiator, and I rarely look at a price tag. But when I told Mercedes that I thought their property tax reimbursement demand was unreasonable and would they investigate, they halved it on the spot. Whenever I ask, "Is there a better table?" I'll get one if one is available. If the wine I order is out of stock, the sommelier will offer an alternative, and I'll ask, "What do you have slightly better that you'll offer at the same price?" I'll usually be accommodated.

I'm not suggesting you act as if you're in a souk, but simple questions never hurt. "Do you accept installments?" or "Is there a discount for cash?" or "Is there a way to avoid the line?"

This also is a good technique to use on yourself. We have some logistics and discipline (!) problems taking our dogs to be bathed and groomed. So we asked, "Can we take the grooming to them?" And we found a mobile groomer who comes to the house with a grooming van.

Ask yourself, "Is it really necessary for me to do this?" (Just as I ask a hotel, "Is it really necessary for me to fill out all this paperwork for my meeting?") The hotel almost always says, "No, just sign the one form with your payment choice."

I'll bet you might tell yourself, "No, stop doing it."

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The human condition: Data-drive

We are obsessed with data, justification, verification, and validation. The stock market goes down and at 10:30 in the morning some pundit is quoted in the news that the cause is "failing belief in the sincerity of Euro-Zone members to mutual aid in the future." Says who? The news reports it because the media can't bear to say, "The market is down thus far this morning," and leave it at that.

Our insistence on underlying cause and data-justification often creates worse circumstances than the problem itself. I once heard the position of shortstop in baseball (where fast, bouncing balls must be fielded and quickly thrown to first base) as "easy to understand but very hard to execute." There is a difference between complicated and complex.

I don't know how sound comes out of a phone, I'd just as soon attribute it to magic. But I do know that if I press a button I'll either hear a dial tone or someone's voice. That happens consistently. However, the stock market is complex, comprising institutional investors, global connections, speed trading, diverse instruments, interpretations of corporate earnings, guesses about confidential strategies, and so forth. I have no idea what will happen in tomorrow's market, any more than I do with the outcome of a football game or horse race.

We need to operate in greater comfort with ambiguity. The ability to adjust, adapt, and acclimate is more important than trying to avoid it or eliminate it. I know how to make an airline reservation and get my boarding pass, but I don't know if the plane will be on time or even take off, so some "Plan B" needs to be in my head (or even in place).

Talib in "The Black Swan" makes the now-famous point that a turkey is confident the butcher loves it for about a thousand days, since it is fed well and unmolested. Then Thanksgiving comes, and in the midst of a sense of great well being, things change harshly. The past is not a very good predictor of the future, no matter how much data we have and how long we have it.

I'm not looking for validation, I'm looking for victory. I don't want verification, but I do need veracity. I am not propelled by data-drive.

I just want to drive.



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I am sitting at the bar of Prime 112 in Miami Beach, and I've smelled bacon as soon as I walked in the door. The group of us sit at the bar, it's too early for dinner, and I'm watching the wait staff prepare for later diners. I'm wondering what dish requires so much bacon to be prepared that the aroma fills the air like cheap perfume.

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"Maybe it's this?" she says as she goes for the vodka.

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