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- Take an hour, walk into a major bookstore, and stroll the racks. Choose several books in diverse areas which appeal to you. You simply can't do this as effectively on line. I've found hundreds of great books, from classics to science fiction, from biographies to mysteries, which I never would've known about or considered.
- Understand that in many cases you can simply "stop." You can leave a play or a movie that is annoyingly bad; you can depart from a party that is dull or raucous; you can announce that you've learned all you need to at a meeting, and can now adjourn; you can say, "It was wonderful running into you, but my appointment awaits." Why prolong pain?
- When I'm immediately confronted with surly service, for example in a restaurant or in a club, I'm apt to say, "Okay, you're not happy for some reason, so we have three options: We can start again, you can get someone else to help me, or I can leave. Which do you prefer?" I usually get an apology and a restart, but I've left my share of places. (It doesn't work on an airplane, of course.)
- You can choose to hang out with people who see opportunity all around them, or who see conspiracies and threat. You can choose to be with those who see themselves as successes, or those who see themselves as victims. That choice is yours.
- People who call you and leave a message that you can get back to them only within certain restricted time frames are trying to get you to conform to their own lack of flexibility. Respond as soon as you can at your convenience with, "Sorry you're hard to reach, but call when you can so long as you're reachable for an hour beyond that and, if I'm unavailable, I'll get back to you promptly."
- The most important person in any major hotel is the general manager's assistant. If you're having problems (or want to pay someone a compliment) ask for the general manager's office and talk to (or leave a voice mail for) the assistant. He or she will take care of you, guaranteed. If you deal with them, retain their name and contact information for the future, as well.
- If your informal communications have syntax, punctuation, and usage errors, there is an overwhelming probability that your business communications do also, and that some people at the other end are not impressed by it. Ask someone you trust to offer you constructive critique whenever they spot something that's incorrect.
- If Hollywood's collective genius can create a $100 million film which flops at the box office, I don't see reason to exactly beat yourself up if you choose a lousy vacation spot, cook a poor meal, or scratch the side of the car. Stuff happens. Get on with your life, and don't let a momentary poor judgment create a lifelong depression.
- Gas is very expensive. I've found no one who has improved the situation for themselves by complaining about it. Drive less, or be more economical, or make more money. The same applies for anything we can't control. You have more coping mechanisms than you think.
- What are you consciously doing to ensure that you laugh every day?
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Leave a trail�.
I'm sitting in the Marriott Marquis in New York where I'm speaking for
the National Speakers Convention. Next to the phone is a note pad, which
the small admonishment: "Leave a trail of genius."
It's clever, a nice little touch. (And a lot more fascinating than the "Today Show"
playing in the background, currently advising me on how to choose fresh corn. You
can't make this stuff up. Make sure it hasn't loss its tassel.)
In any case, I'm wondering what kind of a trail we're all leaving every day. When I
lived in California, in the early morning I could trace the path of the departed slug
in the garden by its trail. A slime trail may not seem like much, but it revealed the
methodical travels of the creature as it sought food, avoided predators, and perhaps
engaged in creating prodigy. Although the elements would soon erase it, the creature
had left a trail, and would so again early the next morning.
We don't need to leave a trail of genius, perhaps, which is a burdensome responsibility.
But what about a trail of assistance, of improvement, of growth, of support, or alleviation
of pain? At the end of each day, what evidence have we left of a better world, a better
condition, a better environment?
Many of our superhighways today are based on older roads, which followed ancient trails.
Some say that the width of the wheels of Roman chariots (determined by the girth of two horses
pulling it) ultimately led to the width (gauge) of modern train tracks. We do tend to follow
in the footprints and pathways of those who came before, often for no good reason.
We are sentient creatures, aware that we are self-aware. What are you doing to determine what
your trail will be at the end of the day, whether useful for your unique contributions or also
for others to follow? Whether anonymous or public, do your trails leave a legacy? Or are you in
the same rut day after day? Is your trail determined by some unknown ancient occurrence, or by
your own determination to make a difference tomorrow?
Unlike the slug's trail, ours needn't disappear with the next sunrise.
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Sitting on the 43rd floor of the hotel, I see architecture and relationships that can't be
appreciated from the ground. Sometimes, you just have to get above it all.
I'm as guilty as anyone of getting involved in ground-level arguments from time to time that
would greatly benefit from a higher perspective. A 30-second delay in a line, a product that breaks,
a service that is poor-these are daily events, whether we like it or not. I remember a gate agent
saying to an exasperated passenger, "The plane isn't leaving until everyone is on board, and even
then not until I close the door. So please calm down."
The cable guy being late is annoying, but if he fixes the problem and your programs play well, isn't
that the real issue? The person in front of you is fixated on exchanging stories with the bank teller,
but will your life really be different if you have your money in two minutes instead of one?
I was sitting in a play the other day, and a really tall man walked in and sat in front of a small woman.
The woman and her friend laughed about it. When the man's partner arrived, he changed seats to sit in
front of the other woman, and they both laughed again at this reversal of fortune. I had a good time
just appreciating their attitudes. (The woman leaned in one direction and watched the play.)
Churchill said that success is never final and failure seldom fatal, it's courage that counts. I'd like
to soften that to quotidian existence by suggesting that the challenges we face every day are seldom
going to ruin our day, unless we allow them to do so. Your television is fixed, your money is in your
hand, you figure out a way to see the play.
Life is about success, not perfection.
Life is about enjoying yourself on a personal basis, not compared to how others are enjoying themselves.
You'll never be happy in that comparison, because there's always a bigger boat.
Book a room on the top floor of the hotel or go up to the lounge on the roof and have a drink. Look out
over the city or the countryside. You'll see a different perspective.
What's going on down in the street seems trivial by comparison.
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Some years ago I shaved off my mustache of 20 or more years, changed my hair style and my wardrobe,
and showed up at an annual convention I attend with a "new look." My name tag was on my belt, and I
had my hand over it as I stepped onto an elevator.
Three women were engaged in a conversation about�..Alan Weiss! One, who knew me but didn't recognize me,
was extolling my virtues (such as they are).
"Isn't he somewhat arrogant?" I interrupted.
"He can be," said my advocate, "but you have to get to know him, he has a lot to offer."
"But can you get past the ego?" I persisted. "He can be insufferable."
"Who are you to be so negative?!" she demanded. She swiped my hand from my belt to see my name tag.
"You're right," she said, "he IS insufferable."
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