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(No. 306, January 2025)

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  2. Musings
  3. Developmental Stuff
  4. ORTIYKMWOYBNT-O Department

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Essays

Complaining

A common response to the question, “Do you have any complaints?” is, “No, what good would it do?” While somewhat cynical, it does have great meaning. Complaining and whining require fuel: energy, time, mental and physical work. We only have so much of that fuel in any given day. Our “batteries” can become exhausted and drain. It’s far better to put that fuel into resilience, “bouncing forward,” and making the best of the hand you’re dealt. That’s what my most successful corporate and individual clients do: They deal with reality rather than bemoaning it.

Vigilantism

Many years ago, a Japan Airlines plane crashed with great loss of life because of a structural/mechanical failure. Although not his fault nor the company’s the CEO resigned, because it happened on his “watch.” I always respected that.

However, the man who killed the CEO on United Health is simply a murderer, no matter how great his unhappiness or unfair treatment with that company. If the fire department fails to put out a fire fast enough, should someone kill the chief? If a school isn’t producing sufficient learning for kids to get into their college of choice, do we kill the principal? If you inadvertently (or advertently) cut someone off on the road, can the other driver justifiably kill you in his or her road rage?

If you agree then welcome to Lord of the Flies, without law or order, and only the most dishonest and calculating survive.

Leaf Blowers

The latest kerfluffle in many municipalities is over gas-powered leaf blowers and other gardening equipment thusly powered. The intent is to remove the pollutants from the air and lower the noise level. That’s commendable in isolation, but when you consider the fact that vast numbers of blue collar jobs and small businesses rely on these, it looks somewhat different. The equipment would have to be abandoned with no resale value, new equipment purchased, and batteries for electric equipment need to be frequently changed during the day, requiring more of them, and more pollution in creating and disposing of them. These prices would either put these people out of business or drive up the costs to homeowners considerably.

We haven’t shut down the tobacco business, with its clear relationship to illnesses. We aren’t planning to shut down the oil business to enhance the attraction of electric vehicles. Similarly, we shouldn’t be sanguine about hurting these small businesses.

De Tocqueville, in Democracy in America, called this the “tyranny of the majority.” That was in 1835.

Musings

“This is terrible weather, but there’s no use complaining because it doesn’t do any good.” We here this all the time, and it’s entirely true. Yet people still complain, burning their time, energy, and money.

The problem is that we also hear it with politics, sports, entertainment, the economy, crime, education, and myriad other issues. And people keep complaining. I’ve always thought that complaining involves being upset with “them” and how “they” should do things better and differently. “Why are they building a bike lane here, what they should do is route it around the empty lots.”

Whining, on the other hand, is bemoaning one’s fate. “Why does this always happen to me?” “Why do I always choose the wrong traffic lane?” “Why does the tall person always sit right in front of me in the theater?”

The internet is replete with both complaining and whining. The former is usually accompanied by epithets hurled (and aspersions cast—those nouns always take those verbs) at others who don’t agree. “How on earth can you (accompanied here usually by the grossest profanities) have voted for that person? Are you all (more profanities) morons?”

Entire organizations can complain and whine. Nonprofit executives are very good at it concerning budgets and funding. I think they take a course in school on professional whining. At the moment, the New York Times is both whining and complaining in virtually every article and column because their candidate lost the election. (All the News—they see—Fit to Print.)

So, let’s all try to stop both whining and complaining and use our time, money, and energy to build our case, back our cause, and make a difference in society.

The problem, of course, is that that’s often best done with the very people you’re complaining about.

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I'm an Old Cowhand...

I worked with the CEO of a very large hospital for a couple of years. She had a great sense of humor and we both “pranked” each other.

One day my wife went into that hospital for minor surgery which required an overnight stay. Even with a private room, she was told not to bring any valuables, so her jewelry, wallet, phone, checkbook were all left at home. She was going to take an Uber home since she was otherwise fine and I was on a series of coaching calls.

She called me from a hospital phone on the day of her departure and told me that I needed to come get her because the staff would not let her leave without paying her bill not covered by insurance in full. They would not bill us, and she was told to stay in a waiting area, in the mandatory wheelchair, until she could make arrangements.

I called the CEO and told her my wife was being held hostage. The CEO told me that she loved my sense of humor. “I’m not kidding,” I said.

“Tell me you’re just pulling my chain,” she begged. “You’d better get over to discharges,” I said.

The CEO personally freed my wife and paid for an Uber for her. She then changed that policy, of which she was completely unaware.

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