When you barge in with your agenda, no matter how valid it may be, I bow out. I appreciate fervor, but not fanaticism.
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Balancing Act®: The Newsletter(No. 267, November 2021) |
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Agenda AddictionOne of my articles was reprinted on Linkedin. It concerned the fact that certain borderline (or worse) personality disorders cannot be “cured” by coaching or discipline, but required therapy by a professional. For example, passive-aggressiveness is a default position for many, and it’s based on low self-esteem. A woman wrote in and asked how I could write such an article without evaluating Joe Biden’s narcissism! That’s like asking me why it’s raining if the stock market is doing so well! I find the most tedious people in the world (and there’s competition here with golfers and fishermen telling their stories) are those whose personal agenda has to invade and infect every conversation, no matter how unrelated. I admire passion and advocacy, but not at the expense of irrelevancy and diversion. There are plenty of appropriate times to talk about social justice and climate change, abortion and immigration, but probably not at a baptism or bar mitzvah or doctor’s exam. I actually know a woman who demanded of her doctor that the office staff stop talking about politics with which she disagreed in her presence. When the doctor told her he wouldn’t attempt to control the free speech of his employees—who were talking among themselves but the woman overheard them—she left her long-time doctor. That’s not healthy outrage. That’s aberrant behavior. This is the reason so many people don’t vote for or against a given politician’s platform, but rather only one item which they hold dear. It’s why an otherwise appropriate candidates are discarded because of a position they had on an “agenda item” ten years ago. The thought that they might have changed their minds is insufficient. We require complete purity over time. So when you barge in with your agenda, no matter how valid it may be, I bow out. I appreciate fervor, but not fanaticism. |
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I had been to Copenhagen 30 years prior when I was asked to speak for a consulting company about an hour outside of the city. I was admiring the grounds of the retreat center with some of the participants. There was a very new bridge spanning the water which I hadn’t seen on my last visit. Looking at the land just discernable on the other side, I asked, “What do you call that land over there?” “Sweden,” they said. |
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