Are You Coachable?
Meet Your Host, Alan Weiss
Alan Weiss is one of those rare people who can say he is a consultant, speaker, and author and mean it.
His consulting firm, Summit Consulting Group, Inc., has attracted clients such as Merck, Hewlett-Packard, GE, Mercedes-Benz, State Street Corporation, Times Mirror Group, The Federal Reserve, The New York Times Corporation, Toyota, and over 500 other leading organizations. He has served on several boards of directors in various capacities.
His prolific publishing includes over 500 articles and 60 books, including his best-seller, Million Dollar Consulting (from McGraw-Hill) now in its 30th year and sixth edition. His newest is Your Legacy is Now: Life is not about a search for meaning but the creation of meaning (Routledge, 2021). His books have been on the curricula at Villanova, Temple University, and the Wharton School of Business, and have been translated into 15 languages.Get to know Alan
- You can’t help people who don’t want to be helped.
- That includes those who just want to be validated without making changes.
- That includes those who say, “Here’s how to coach me.”
- Coaching is for short-term improvement in skills, behaviors, and mental set (emotions) that are manifest and repeatable.
- Longer-term help is advising (sounding board) and reactive rather than proactive.
- Codependency is excessive emotional or psychological reliance on a partner, in either direction.
- Therapist: I won’t become part of your marriage.
- Me coaching: I won’t do your job for you or become part of your operation.
- Coachable people never say, “I tried that and it doesn’t work.” (Well, maybe you didn’t do it well enough.)
- Coachable people complete assignments, meet deadlines, don’t argue with metrics previously agreed upon.
- Coachable people see legitimate, authentic, long-lived benefits in positive change.
- They don’t allow their egos to block change or to be used as an excuse.
- They don’t try to become their coach, they try to adopt the behaviors recommended for them.
- They don’t listen to multiple coaches, “shopping” for advice which pleases them.
- What about you? Can you accept coaching that you request without conditions or pushback?
- Can you change behavior without experiencing a threat to your ego or status?
- Are you engaged in life-long learning or daily defending of your position, entrenched on a hill?
Alan Weiss’s The Uncomfortable Truth® is a weekly broadcast from “The Rock Star of Consulting,” Alan Weiss, who holds forth with his best (and often most contrarian) ideas about society, culture, business, and personal growth. His 60+ books in 12 languages, and his travels to, and work in, 50 countries contribute to a fascinating and often belief-challenging 20 minutes that might just change your next 20 years.
Introduction to the show recorded by Connie Dieken