Alan Weiss’s Monday Morning Memo® – 03/7/2022
A lot of people will tell you to “manage your battery” and “harness your energy” so that you can stay fresh and creative and active. It’s a position that maintains you alone are the generator of your vigor and positivity and “shame on you” if you aren’t able to spew forth power in some geothermal eruption, a human “Old Faithful” geyser. (Note: There is, in actuality, a super volcano under Old Faithful which, if it erupts, would spew dangerous gasses for at least 500 miles. I am not making that up.)
I’m here to tell you that your energy level depends to a great degree on who is around you—to and with whom you speak, listen, view, and otherwise interact. In my lengthy (and quite anecdotal) study having coached thousands of entrepreneurs and executives, there are people who pump you up and people who deflate you: energy-spewers and energy-suckers.
In terms of positivity, I’m not talking about the people who tell you to trod hot coals, collapse in hot tents, fall into each other’s arms, or build sand castles when the tide is out. All of that is ephemeral and evanescent. I am talking about people whose own enthusiasm and energy are contagious, who give you strength and hope and power just in their propinquity, in reality or remotely.
The energy suckers are those who always want to take and never give. They want you to do their failure work. They take your time and steal your ideas. They are the neediest of the needy with the least justification. They simply don’t accept their own accountability.
I was in the water in Nantucket once and found myself amidst thousands of tiny fish, perhaps two inches long. I didn’t think this was a threat until they all industriously began nibbling on me, and I realized I had better get the hell out of there. At least piranha finish you off quickly.
Keep this in mind: Those remoras sucking the detritus and food leftovers from the shark’s skin and teeth are doing positive work in a symbiotic relationship. If they weren’t, well, to quote “Mack the Knife”: “Oh, the shark, babe, has such teeth, dear, and it shows them pearly white….” There wouldn’t be any remora left in the world if they weren’t contributing to the shark’s well being. Nature at work.
Your life was meant for more than being a life-long doormat for deadbeats, losers, gossipers, nay-sayers, dream-crushers, energy vampires, users, abusers, ragers and passive-aggressive backstabbers. —Bryant McGill
It is indeed as if we were living in a world of zombies and vampires, where each one of us becomes one of them, after being bitten and contaminated with the negative energy of those that already have such nature. —Daniel Marques
You can argue that I’m wrong, you can demand more money, you can challenge me to a duel. But if you keep wasting my time I’m going to turn the dogs loose. —Alan Weiss