Alan Weiss’s Monday Morning Memo® – 06/21/2021
I was a scared little kid. I tried to avoid conflicts, and bullies were frightening to me. I avoided two of them I had irritated in grammar school for months until I accidentally ran into them. Nothing happened, they had forgotten me. I realized I had intimidated myself.
I was afraid of the Tornado, the big old wooden roller coaster, until I was shamed into boarding it. I loved it so much I tried to wait to grab the first seat in the front in the future. When I first played Little League baseball, I was so nervous the bat shook in my hands. Several games later, I got my first hit and drove in a run. By the end of the season I had made the All-Star Team.
In one of my first presentations at a major client of the consulting firm for which I worked, around 1972, I was so terrified that I walked into one of the easels, which knocked down the other two, and scattered markers and papers all over. The client coordinator told me the group was surprised I had come back after lunch. I was inducted into the National Speakers Association Hall of Fame® about 20 years ago.
We often scare ourselves into submission. The minatory nature of new experiences—or being in the presence of someone who is expert—can often paralyze us and undermine our ability to learn and to grow. We intimidate ourselves.
These are times to set your own speed, to be your own person. There are daily attempts to frighten, scare, and otherwise manipulate us. Consider the facts and choose the course you believe is best.
Don’t let the bat shake. Just keep your eye on the ball.
I had my bully, and it was excruciating. Not only the bully, but the intimidation I felt. —Robert Cormier
We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light. —Plato
Ultimately we know deeply that the other side of every fear is freedom. —Marilyn Ferguson