It’s Not Your Fault, and Don’t Allow Anyone to Tell You It is
Low self-esteem can be so chronic that people suffering from it actually extend it to others. This is called “projection.” For example, if you relate a problem with service or products or any experience, no matter how egregiously someone else’s fault, people with low self-esteem will point out that it’s really your fault. That’s because they go through life that way, thinking everything is their fault and never wanting to confront those actually responsible for their discomfort and even misery. This occurs in work groups, in families, and in social relationships.
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