Alan Weiss’s Monday Morning Memo® – 02/28/2022
I’ve been watching a group of crows drive away three visiting hawks because the predators were close to the crows’ nests in the trees in our back yard. It was like watching nimble fighter jets attack heavy bombers. The hawks clearly felt it wasn’t worth it and moved on. The crows were fighting for their “homes.”
Of course, I thought of the crows as Ukraine.
A bully is someone who seeks to harm and/or intimidate those believed to be vulnerable to such attack.
Bullies are typically very insecure, feel inferior, and seek to bring others down to their own level of perceived poor performance. Putin is a bully who happens to have tanks and missiles. The experts rationalize his wanting to “protect his borders” and that NATO is reaching far too close. His government has “warned” Finland and Sweden, two other independent countries, not to join NATO or there could be “military consequences.”
In other words, it’s our fault that a tyrant is threatened by free countries on his borders.
The way you end bullying is by standing up to it. Bullies are enabled when they get their way but don’t have the courage to overcome determined resistance because bullies are essentially cowards, using bluster to overcome their own feelings of inadequacy.
I will remind you here that Ukraine, though not a NATO member, was persuaded to surrender all of its nuclear arms (third largest in the world at the time) in 1994 in return for a guarantee that Russia, the US and the UK would protect it from invasion.
Let this be an encomium to their courage. They’re putting up a hell of a fight against the bully, but they’d be better off with the crows than the empty promises.
Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke. —Benjamin Disraeli
I realized that bullying never has to do with you. It’s the bully who’s insecure. —Shay Mitchell