Alan Weiss’s Monday Morning Memo® – 01/31/2022
Generosity is the readiness and willingness to give more than is expected, and consistently showing kindness toward others. In A Line Out for A Walk, the writer Joseph Epstein observed, “The true measure of generosity is not how much one gives but how much, after giving, one has left over.” Generosity doesn’t require a sigil, only an attitude.
I formerly (and I stress “formerly”) coached someone who had been almost penniless, and through his efforts and acceptance of advice became very successful financially. But his lack of generosity never changed, and when I confronted him about this his reply was, “I’m very generous with my family!” His poverty mentality was indelibly etched in his soul.
Generosity, to me, isn’t solely about money. It’s about non-financial support, presence, advice and good counsel, forgiveness, and tolerance. Most generosity “costs” us nothing at all. But it requires strong self-worth and not the feeling that you “lose” something when you provide it for others. Stopping to allow someone to turn in front of you is a generous act. Forgiving someone who doesn’t is also a generous act.
But beyond “act” generosity is a mindset. Some of us trip over it and realize we should provide it. For others, it’s a default behavior. But you can’t do it because it brings the spotlight on you and you desire the accolades.
“He has right to meddle who has a heart to help.” (Ralph Waldo Emerson)
Every minute of every hour of every day you are making the world, just as you are making yourself, and you might as well do it with generosity and kindness and style. —Rebecca Solnit
In a time of domestic crisis, men of goodwill and generosity should be able to unite regardless of party or politics. —John F. Kennedy