On Gratification
"Immediate gratification" is a part of our existence, but it shouldn't represent our primary focus. (And I realize that I transitioned from corporate consulting to individual advisory work because it is more immediately gratifying than the sloth-like movement of bureaucracies.) If
Importance and Passion
Some things are important for the world around us, and some things are highly pleasurable and motivating. When those exist concurrently, we have a "calling" or an especially rewarding career. It doesn't have to be lofty. Some people love carpentry
Prisoner of the Past
We deal with the past primarily through memory, the present through perception, and the future through imagination. None of these is perfect, nor even necessarily accurate. The past differs because it has happened. We can check sources and references, but often not
Winning in Overtime Isn’t As Good As Winning in Regulation Time
Things are seldom settled based on one issue. "The play that lost the game" is usually just a play with time running out or at a precarious moment, but why was team behind at that point? What about the three
Show A Little Respect
Be content with winning. Don't insist that for you to really "win" the other person has to "lose." I've known too many people who are not satisfied with victory and continue to suffer because they don't feel the other person
“I Live with the Pain”
As a coach, I've met a lot of people whose issues with performance, innovation, organization, priority setting, and so forth are actually caused by physical problems they are unaware of or ignore. Sometimes it may be depression (clinical or non-clinical)
No Normal®
I've talked about the fact that we're in No Normal® and not a "return to normal" or a "new normal." The word "normal" means "typical" or "average." Do you want to be typical and average? We need to prevent a "regression
Who’s Pushing Your Buttons?
Let's face it, there are people who "get to you." Their presence puts you on edge, and tends to alter your behavior for the worse. There are the passive-aggresives who seek to undermine with faint praise; the bullies who try to
What Was I Going to Write? Oh, Yeah…
One of the reasons we don't retain good ideas and salient points is that we don't use and apply them immediately. If you see a quote, or a phrase, or a new word, or a statistic, or whatever that you
Visceral Victory
For over 30 years this has been a good tactic, so I'm confident it's the best course of action: When you're undecided about a candidate for a job, or whether to take on a client, or any such selection, go