The Best Person to Trust
The greatest contributor to low self-esteem that I’ve observed is the lack of trust in one’s own judgment. This is why people tend to be swayed so easily by normative pressure. For example, you listen to a mediocre speech, yet when people around you stand up to provide an ovation, you stand as well, preferring to “go with the crowd.” That is herd instinct. And, of course, it enables more poor performances.
it’s tough to deal with ambiguity (a daily occurrence) when you don’t have an instruction book, haven’t been in that situation before, and don’t trust your own judgment. That’s when you seek advice of attorneys or accountants or others whose advice is actually worse than your own judgment would be. It’s not that you don’t have the wisdom, it’s that you’re afraid to utilize and implement it. Life doesn’t come with an instruction book.
If you trust yourself more, you’ll make better decisions in every instance and, when you do make an error, you’ll be resilient enough to rebound from it successfully. Nothing you or I decide today is going to change the course of civilization. Let’s just try to help one person or one issue at a time and be unafraid of failure.
If you’re not failing, you’re not trying. Trust me on that, and trust yourself.