You Played Well, Though It Was Fortunate the Other Team Was Not Very Good
Passive aggressive behavior is the use of sarcasm, “innocent” comment, and undermining to attack someone else. One of my favorite descriptions (not my creation) is “weaponized kindness.”
This occurs when one person says, “My child was just accepted into the University of XYZ,” and the passive aggressive person replies, “Congratulations, I assume that was the back-up choice?”
I feel this is a personality disorder and it originates with terribly insecure people who disdain direct confrontation but choose to “ambush” others with faint praise. “That was a very good test result, even if it wasn’t as good as your sister’s.” Or “For someone your age…..”
You deal (or maybe I deal) with such behavior by confronting it: “Why would you say or imply something so hurtful? Are you having a bad day or do you resent others’ success?”
I call that “healthy confrontation.” At least it improves my health!