Coulda, Shoulda….
If you're constantly admonishing yourself about what you could have said and should have said, you're going to live a pretty stressful and guilt-ridden life. These regrets will haunt you unless you stop making the mistake of not being assertive
At the Fork in the Road
You have a choice every morning. You can look at the day as demanding tough decisions, trying to pay bills, following up on people who haven't called you back, and avoiding poor relationships. In other words, a long, slow crawl
Would You Like Some Feedback? No, goodbye.
Don't listen to critics, don't try to win their approval. Be true to yourself. By all means, accept feedback when you solicit it from respected others. But ignore unsolicited feedback since it's always for the sender. This is especially so
Self-Mastery
When you think and speak negatively, you create fear about the future, which creates anxiety, stress, and low self-worth, increasing your negativity. Change your words and your thoughts. Break this cycle. No matte what has happened, no matter what your
Learning in Defeat
Do you learn daily? Even from a "defeat" or setback, you can learn. You can ask the buyer who rejected your proposal, "What could I have done better to earn your business?" You can ask a furious customer or client,
There Are Lists and There Are Lists
I don't make "to do" lists. I make "results lists." So, "Work on garage clutter" becomes "create five empty shelves in garage." "Work on my model" is "finish landing gear assembly." "Write article" becomes "submit quarterly article to Performance Magazine." "Buy Valentine's gift" becomes
A Word, A Sentence, A Paragraph, A Book
Every commercially-published author wrote a "first book." No matter whether it was fiction or nonfiction, we all had to write that "first book" and sell it to a publisher. No exceptions—you can't have a fourth book unless you've had a
How Good Do You Have to Be?
How good do you have to be? Damn good! If you look at professional sports teams, you have excellent athletes, even those who are riding the bench and are substitutes. But the best of them are the "starters." However, many
What Is That Screaming?
Does anyone whining and complaining on social media about their election loss think that's going to change anything? That they'll convert anyone? This it improves the country? If that energy were put into organizing behind favorite causes or supporting favored candidates
To Prepare or Not
You prepare, show up, do your best, and go home. Never be embarrassed by "losing," and never be embarrassed by "winning." Be embarrassed when you don't prepare, you don't show up, or you don't do your best.