Respect vs. Affection
When your priority is to be “liked” you will find yourself constantly compromising to achieve your desired levels of affection, Moreover, your communications will be dishonest at times, with a reluctance to give others harsh but accurate feedback and their tendency to “protect” you as well.
Your goal in business relationships should be respect, not affection. If people also like you, that’s even better. But never sacrifice respect for affection. You can’t pay the mortgage with “likes” on social media and rave reviews on “smile sheets.” And you can’t improve unless people tell you the truth about how they perceive you and your results.
Sympathy is feeling sorry for someone’s plight. Empathy is understanding how they feel and relating to it. When I coach, I use empathy without the sympathy. I call it “tough love.”
If you want unconditional love and affection, get a dog. I have two dogs.