Alan Weiss’s Monday Morning Memo® – 09/26/2022
I stopped at the bank on Saturday, and found a guy parking his SUV across three diagonal spaces. He didn’t have the patience or caring to maneuver the vehicle, which came in through the wrong entrance, so he left it there. The day prior, at a reception for the Rhode Island School of Design, a VW was illegally parked making the two-way street outside only one lane. It was there when we arrived and when we departed.
In my experience, most medical front-office staffs are inconsiderate. They joke and eat in full view and hearing of the waiting patients, most of whom are in physical and/or emotional pain. Patients are never told about wait times but are told quite specifically about payment requirements.
Yesterday, a guy I don’t know (who claims to have been in a session with me years ago) wrote and asked me to explain in detail my reasons for converting to Catholicism, and what issues I’ve had in so doing, and why I believe in God. When I told him I would only do so in the confines of a coaching relationship, he told me he thought it was a simple request.
And it seems that everyone who communicates with me simply defaults to “Alan” as if we’re long-time buddies and peers. (There are some nice exceptions, such as mâitre d’s, wait staff, clothing and jewelry store employees, and doctors, and I love it when people just call me “doc.” Although my mother used to say, “He’s not the kind of doctor who actually helps people.”)
I’m not adverse to conviviality and amicable conversation. Hell, I even chat with strangers around me during a performance intermission. But I am disturbed by lack of respect and enforced bonhomie. I think we’re going to experience this sine die. It’s spreading like the blob.
In an exercise I run on identifying peers, someone claimed one of his as the Dalai Lama! I wonder if he says, “Hello, Dalai….”
Inconsiderate, rude behavior drives me nuts. And I guess the inconsiderate rudeness of social ineptitude definitely fuels my work. —Cindy Sherman
Rudeness is a weak imitation of strength. —Eric Hoffer
If my first impression of you is one of rudeness, you don’t get a second impression with me. —Alan Weiss